Tuition From Tragedy – Ben’s Story – Illimitable Men

Long Term Relationships, Red Pill Theory

# Tuition From Tragedy – Ben’s Story

January 15, 2016July 25, 2016by IM

“When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one’s self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance.” – Oscar Wilde

Contents:
1.) Introduction
2.) Ben’s Story, IM’s Analysis
3.) Ben’s Fate
4.) In Closing / Lessons Learned
5.) Relevant Reading

1.) Introduction:

If anybody needed the red pill, it was Ben. The tale of Ben is a cautionary tale, for men like Ben are the reason the red pill exists. Ben is, much to his detriment, a man completely clueless in matters of women. Ben’s tale highlights how a woman’s slow pervasive intrusion into a man’s emotional inner sanctum can prove deadly, especially so for men absent red pill awareness.

Ben’s ignorance to reality cost him an otherwise effortless and affable charm, his sense of well-being, money, time and the prospect of a good future. But let us not allow Ben’s suffering to be in vain, using Ben’s experiences, we can look at the relational dynamics between a blue pill man and his girlfriend, explicating how red pill principles play their part in, and ultimately define the success or failure of a relationship.

With Ben’s story in hand, my humble analysis, and your sharing of this article, maybe, just maybe, we’ll save a few more men from becoming Ben. Okay, enough of my talking, you haven’t even heard the story yet, so on we go.

2.) Ben’s Story, IM’s Analysis:

> I have a friend (we’ll call him Ben) who was a stay-at-home dad. We knew each other since high school. In high school Ben was independent and fairly assertive, yet likewise he was one of the kindest people you’d know. Ben was very upstanding, everybody liked him. He wasn’t your stereotypical alpha, but he was the leader of his friends.

> In high school, Ben met a girl called Julia. They dated, and were really into one another. Ben found it easy to get girls because of his easygoing personality, Julia was attracted to Ben’s popularity, so she asked Ben to be her boyfriend. Looking back I think that’s where things started to go wrong. It was his first girlfriend and he really, really loved her. He and I stopped going out together, and on the rare occasions we did go out, he would be worried his girlfriend was missing him so he’d incessantly text and call her.

> I loved Ben to the core at the time, but it became unbearable to stay near him anymore. As a result, we ended up growing distant from one another.

Our tale starts with that of an extroverted young alpha male in a classic boy meets girl scenario. A tale so recognisable, it’s a cliched trope repeated in countless movies. Boy is popular, girl falls in love with boy’s popularity, so boy dates girl and quickly falls in love with her, only for girl to end up thinking he’s a loser when school’s over and the popularity that made him situationally attractive has evaporated.

Also note Ben’s constant need to check in with his woman, this is a classic beta male trait: anti-dread. Dread is the heightening and elicitation of attraction in a woman via a combination of emotional withdrawal, and an implicit or explicit demonstration of social power. For example, being seen with another high status person (particularly an attractive woman) whilst simultaneously dialling down the degree and frequency of emotional validation a man gives his woman constitutes dread.

Both alpha and dark triad men use dread as a tool to keep their woman’s narcissism in check. Dread plays on a woman’s jealous disposition and group status anxiety to keep her ego in check and attraction high, dread communicates to a woman’s hypergamy “this man is hot”. Likewise, whether a woman is aware or unaware of the dynamic at hand has no bearing on the efficacy of this social mechanism, for it is immutable.

Naturally, anti-dread is the opposite of dread. Anti-dread is the constant validation of a woman’s concerns, be they pettily baseless or accurately rooted in reality. Anti-dread is the constant assuagement of a women’s ever-changing insecurity, addressing every little concern she has with servile like efficiency; it is the constant need to “make sure everything is ok” and is in general, a passive, pandering, supplicate behaviour which prioritises comfort and paranoia placation over attraction.

Where dread harnesses a woman’s paranoia and discomfort to create attraction, anti-dread looks only to assuage it, making the man in question appear boring, and thus in turn, unchallenging and unattractive. Women are not attracted to men who give them an easy life, they’re attracted to the jealousy of uncertainty and competition. Assuaging a woman once she teeters on the precipice of romantic uncertainty almost ensures a strong, passionate relationship.

Effectively for a woman to appreciate a man, she has to believe she can lose him. Anti-dread ensures high levels of comfort, which in turn cultivate a hubris so firm she believes her man to be incapable of leaving her. When a woman does not believe she needs to please a man in order to keep him, she cannot respect him, and thus in turn, cannot love him in the way a romantic partner should.

> Fast forward a couple of years and Ben got Julia pregnant. She had the baby just after graduation, but her family didn’t accept it so they kicked her out of the house. Ben found a poorly paid job at a logistics firm, gave up on his dreams of college, left his family and went to live with her in the worst house you can imagine.

Already this early into the story we can see the painstaking decisions that will eventually lead to the demise of Ben. What is Ben’s crucial life-altering faux pas? He gave up his future for a girl. A man always needs a mission other than his woman, to put this mission first, and to entertain women solely as an accompaniment, never a goal.

A good woman is one who will not jeopardise the mission, an exemplary woman is one who will support it. A woman who expects to be treated with more importance than her man’s mission unwittingly condemns them both to a most sordid misery, for a woman’s conceit will destroy the relationship should it not be kept in check.

When a man has no mission other than to meet the needs of his woman, rest assured the woman in question will seek a man with a mission of his own. You see, women are so clueless and out of touch with what’s really good for them, that left to lead they will ruin every relationship with every man they ever have. The success of a relationship thus relies almost solely on how a man harnesses his ingenuity to safeguard the relational arrangement from the vacillation of his woman’s emotional impulses.

If you allow a woman to dictate the course of your life, she will, and no matter her demands beforehand, she’ll hate you for it. A woman is a creature who pesters, nags, undermines, demands and sabotages her man in a petty quest for power born of insecurity, and should you yield to her attempts of usurpation, she will hate you. This is nothing but a test to see if you’re “a real man”, a behaviour almost all women compulsively exhibit without self-awareness or malice, yet nevertheless agitating and troublesome for man.

A woman hates a man who won’t give her what she wants, but she absolutely detests a man who does, and without a fight. You see the typical woman spends all her time ensuring a man sees her as the most important thing in his life, and as soon as he behaves as if she is, she becomes “suffocated”, moving on unflinchingly. Women think they want to be worshipped, but they do not, they want to be dominated absent the insecurity of disrespect; few woman are self-aware enough to realise this, even fewer dare to admit it.

> Ben worked 8 hours per day, whilst Julia went to college (college here is free, so she only had to study to enter). Ben paid the neighbour to look after their child whilst he worked and she studied. As Julia had no income, she was reliant on Ben as he paid both the rent and her college expenses. When Ben was home, Julia would be studying so he’d take more care of the child than she would. Ben’s family would assist them with money and childcare when Ben’s money ran out at the end of each month.

> I didn’t know what was happening because we’d lost contact at the time, otherwise I would have helped him as much as possible. This insane routine went on for about 3 years, until Julia got a proper job at the end of college. She got an internship in a prestigious consulting firm, and as she used to say “got hired straight after college because she was too good.” Once she got this job, she was making 3 times what Ben made working the same number of hours.

> Ben always hated leaving his child to be taken care of by a stranger, so he spoke with Julia and they agreed it would be better if he stayed home and looked after their daughter whilst she worked. This worked to begin with, and Ben was happy. He contacted me and a few others at this time, and begun keeping in touch. He had changed a lot physically, it was shocking, he was pale, tired looking and appeared 10 years older than he was. I assumed this was because of the shitty job he had worked over the years, but nevertheless he was still noble, one of the greatest people I’ve ever known.

Without Ben, Julia would be a single mother. As a single mother, she would have very little opportunity to educate herself. Ben covering the bills whilst she studied was the fulcrum on which her study depended. Thus it stands to reason that were it not for Ben, Julia would not have had the opportunity to economically elevate herself. And so it appears by this point Ben slipped from the position of schoolboy alpha to that of beta provider, a transition so insidious I doubt he entirely realised it himself.

The moment Julia got her job at the consultancy and was no longer reliant on Ben’s income was the moment Ben became obsolescent. At this point he was neither the alpha that provided excitement, nor the beta providing resources and security – he was redundant.

Perversely, Ben gave up his academic aspirations because he was becoming a father, yet his girlfriend who was actually conceiving the child did not. To ensure a fruitful and more lasting relationship, it would have made much more sense for Ben to have gone to college whilst his girlfriend stayed home and looked after the child, I will give you my reasoning in 4 words:

Briffault’s Law and Hypergamy

A man who arches his back to enable a woman to step onto it and climb higher, creates a woman who will look down on him once her ascension has been realised. The naive, romantic man expecting to have his loyalty honoured will extend his hand from below, clasping at the heel of her shoe in expectation she will reward his efforts – but she will not. She will kick him down, and scoff with nothing but disgust for what she views as inferior neediness.

In a miraculous state of compartmentalisation, she will forget everything the man did to assist her ascension, attributing all credit for her accomplishments to herself whilst allocating blame for her imperfections to her man. Just as a woman will only take responsibility for your victories and not your losses, she will likewise refuse to deign a man she sees as inferior with credit for her victories. This is precisely why an out of control female ego is so deleterious to a relationship, an egotistical woman believes she is above her man, and it is via this belief that her attraction wanes and ushers in an era of relational failure.

As we can see above, Ben’s lack of dominance allowed Julia’s hubris to become so strong that she began to believe in her innate superiority to Ben, illogically and deludely believing she had gotten to where she was single-handedly, rather than on the back of Ben’s selfless sacrifice.

Why does a woman suddenly betray the father of her child, the very man who worked tirelessly to give her a better life? Hypergamy, and more specifically, Briffault’s Law. Ben’s value was as a provider, the minute he enabled Julia to provide for herself more efficiently, he removed her dependency and thus became obsolete.

Had Ben been the one to go to college whilst Julia worked a job and stayed home with the child, Ben and Julia would still be together. Why? Because Ben would have the status and income of a better job that Julia would not have for herself, this in turn would allow Ben to satiate Julia’s hypergamy. By facilitating Julia’s social mobility at the expense of his own, Ben not only deprived himself economic opportunities, but has all but certainly ensured his love interest will lose interest in him.

> Fast forward 2 years and Ben’s girlfriend Julia admitted to having an affair with her co-worker. (IM’s interjection: Who didn’t see that one coming?!) She told Ben she didn’t want to be with him anymore because she couldn’t live with herself for betraying him, after this they separated. Ben went back to his family’s house, he searched for a job, and after a few months he found one. He asked to live with me for a while because I lived closer to where he worked, naturally I obliged and we lived together for a few months.

The old “it’s not you, it’s me” rejection. As objective in tone as I endeavour to be in the penning of this literature, I’m at a point where I find it all but impossible not to laugh at how insanely ludicrous this gambit was. Here, Julia tries to save face (maintain her reputation as a wholesome woman and mother) by feigning she is so wrought with guilt for her disloyalty that she should leave as she is unworthy of Ben.

Of course being the wrongful party, it is not down to her to decide what the consequences for her actions should be, such a decision would rightfully belong to the injured party, Ben. However, just as naturally as she took control of the relationship, she took control of the breakup.

If Ben had been on top of things, the consequences and punishment for her behaviour would not be in her hands, but in his. Of course Julia didn’t respect Ben, which is the cause of her waning attraction and thus decision to cheat to begin with. This disrespect continues as she smears herself in a veneer of inauthentic righteousness, claiming her exit to be the self-imposed punishment she deserves rather than what it really is: convenient abandonment, a branch swing.

Here we see a woman’s Machiavellianism at its finest as she superficially condemns herself, only to suffer no real punishment as she simultaneously executes her whim’s desire. From one Machiavellian to another, I must say disguising an exit strategy as an unwanted but necessary exile is something of a stroke of genius – this is definitely something that would head fuck a lesser man, and I can say with almost unshakable veracity it would have been something that wrought monumental chaos on Ben’s young and fragile mind.

> Meanwhile, Julia moved to her coworker’s house and took their daughter with her. Ben can’t have guardianship of the girl because his job was unstable and he did not have a home. Julia made it difficult for him to see his daughter because seeing him reminded her of her betrayal. He lawyered up, and was permitted to see his daughter just once every 15 days.

> Ben’s situation while living with me was as bad as you can imagine. He had no degree, a low paying and unstable job, little contact with his daughter, no future prospects, no wife and none of his classic charisma. He barely talked when he lived with me. I was paying for his lawyer because he wanted nothing more than to see his daughter. I offered him a psychologist, but he refused. I requested he went to college and offered to pay, but he refused me; I’m sure he was depressed. He moved out after a while and got his own shitty place as this would increase his chances of getting custody of his daughter.

> Julia went insane when he did this. She tried to stop him from having contact with his daughter altogether. She poisoned his daughter and turned her against him. She filed false allegations to the police, claiming Ben had threatened her, invaded her home and tried to beat her; she made at least 30 of these complaints to the police. As a result, police enquiries begun and Ben had to get a better lawyer to defend himself from her accusations.

> He had to sell his house, and once again went back to live with his family. He didn’t want to come and live with me again because I think his pride had been hurt and he was embarrassed. After one of Julia’s false allegations, the police made Ben wear an electronic tag around his ankle. When his boss saw his ankle tag, he lost his job and his life was destroyed in every way conceivable.

I have said it before but it bears saying again, when a woman leaves she takes everything that matters to her, possessions and children alike. Ben’s attempt to dispute what Julia rightfully believed to be hers (their daughter) resulted in her upping the ante. To defend her property, she went on the offensive, and as predictable as finding sand in a desert, leveraged the authorities to successfully criminalise her opponent in the absence of any sufficient evidence of wrongdoing.

The weaponisation of the state against Ben served two primary functions, the first being to ensure his continued prohibition of access to his daughter, the second being an economic attack upon his resources, to tie him up in so much legal trouble that whatever money he did have would dry up. Julia held all the trump cards, she had a much greater income (which if you remember, is the very income Ben was crucial in her acquisition of), her partner’s income, and the default assumed innocence and benefit of the doubt that comes with being female.

This continued legal pressure complemented the mental poisoning she had conducted upon their daughter, and would ensure Ben was firmly out of the picture once and for all.

The electronic tag was the final nail in the coffin, having the unintended yet tactically pleasant effect of causing Ben to lose his job, thus financially starving him and removing his ability to fight for custody of his child. At this point, Julia won, being penniless and thus powerless to fight back, Julia would automatically retain custody.

I do not believe these were the actions of a dark triad woman, but rather that of a representatively average woman in a state of scorn. If a man loves a woman too much, fails to maintain social dominance, and underestimates her purely on the superficial pleasantry of her femininity, like Ben he can be assured swift acquaintance with a world of most heinous pain.

3.) Ben’s Fate:

> Last week Ben tried to kill himself by drinking cleaning products and pills in a hotel. The lady who cleaned his room found him, and he was taken to the hospital. He had his stomach pumped, he may survive but his interior was badly damaged, he is still in the hospital.

4.) In Closing / Lessons Learned:

– You should not rely on a woman’s moral compass (haha!) or emotions to override her hypergamous programming. If Ben is an example of anything, he’s an example of man’s total disposability should he allow himself to become obsolescent emotionally or financially. As such, a man must fight obsolescence by maintaining relevance.

– If you allow a woman’s motherly nature and good looks to conceal the great mental cruelty she is capable of, you will be in for a most revolting awakening the eve she opts to betray you.

– You may be unable to trust a woman, but you can trust her hypergamy – act accordingly.

– If you treat a woman too well, she will reward you with enough pain and betrayal to make suicide seem like a viable option – do not love too much.

– It is a man’s responsibility to ensure he maintains dominance in the relationship, he should employ dread to humble his woman and prevent an unchecked ego from encroaching on the stability of the relationship.

– Women are practical lovers by nature, whereas men are idealistic. As a man, your love should thus be better guarded, more scantily awarded and more quickly revoked. If a man loves too much and too wholly, he may find himself in a situation as dire as Ben’s.

– Never elevate a woman beyond your station, should you help a woman to improve herself, ensure it is not to the extent she surpasses you. Ben supported Julia with money for childcare, food and lodging whilst she studied. Without Ben, Julia would not be a professional earning three times what Ben does. As the late and great Patrice O’Neal would fondly assert, a king can make a woman queen, but a queen cannot make a king. Even as esteemed as the position of queen is, it’s still beneath that of king, and this dynamic plays out universally in male-female relationships.

– Being a weak and passive man is dangerous, it could cost you everything you hold dear, including your sanity. Next time you feel even a tinge of guilt for being a jerk to a woman, remember Ben. Remember how devoid of sympathy hypergamy is when a man is beneath rather than above it. If you are going to remember anything, remember this: don’t be like Ben, be anything but Ben, Ben is the ultimate example of what not to be. Ask yourself “what would Ben do?”, then do the opposite.

– Dedicating your life to making a woman happy is a recipe for disaster. Women may say in their hubris that this is a commendable and advisable thing to do, but this line of thought is folly based on nothing but feminine conceit. As such, I will forever recommend against this. Have a mission, do not base your life on a woman.

Don’t forget you can sign-up for notification of the book release here and learn about the upcoming dark triad forum here.

5.) Relevant Reading:

If you identify with Ben, or know somebody like Ben, I recommend you/they absorb the following materials in the order listed:

No More Mr. Nice Guy
The 48 Laws of Power
The Rational Male: Preventive Medicine
The Rational Male

If you have a problem you wish to discuss with IM, you can [seek a consultation here]

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## 26 thoughts on “Tuition From Tragedy – Ben’s Story”

1. “– If you allow a woman’s motherly nature and good looks to conceal the great mental cruelty she is capable of, you will be in for a most revolting awakening the eve she opts to betray you.”

   Us men need to remind ourselves of this.

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   1. Indeed, a man in love sees only the good and none of the bad. And with a need to protect his manly pride, blames himself for all the bad even if his woman is being outright parasitic and manipulative. As such, like you say, men must stay sharp and remind themselves this to prevent untold catastrophe.

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2. “Dedicating your life to making a woman happy is a recipe for disaster.”

   This. My wife and I went through a period years ago where I tried everything to appease her. The only result was our relationship continued to get worse and worse. Every day we had fights. I dreaded getting phone calls from her because I knew it would be more bitching, threats, and insults. It was only after I said enough was enough that things began to get better.

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   1. Yep, like a child that’s stepped out of line if you don’t put your foot down you will never be respected, and thus, never loved.

      My “Hierarchy of Love” essay goes into this in more detail.

      http://illimitablemen.com/2015/06/01/the-hierarchy-of-love/

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      1. This article is required reading for any young man just starting out in life. I will share the link with my friends to read.Thank you so much for sharing gems. They are literally life saving.

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3. I worked full time, at a psych hospital (even through my first pregnancy) while my husband worked part time and went to school full time until he got his degree and a good job.

   I never got a college degree, I went straight into being a SAHM. I am completely dependent on my husband and will be for my entire life — no degree, huge gap in my resume, only a few years towards social security, only retirement savings is what he sets up for me.

   Yet I intentionally chose to be in this vulnerable place because it’s the only shot at really being happy — he gets to have the career and be the breadwinner, I have no school debt so being a SAHM isn’t a financial burden. If our marriage ended my life would go up in flames but that’s kind of actually good to know.

   And I agree about the importance for women of being consistently humbled. We don’t really stop to think of what we are WORTHY of but what we WANT — and just because we want it, we think we deserve it, we think it correlates to us being great.

   It actually feels better when my husband humbles me by smacking my butt or pointing out that I did a bad job at my chores or gently makes fun of me. Life is better when your feet are on the ground.

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4. What did I just read? Tragic story but also a very common example of the trajectory many men are prone to due to their affectionate nature. Upon reading it, I felt discontent at first. Eventually, I realized that there is no other way but forcing yourself to view those incidents with relentless cynicism. Red pill philosophies both in an awareness but also in a tactical level should be taught to boys from a very young age.

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   1. I agree fully. Any red pill man with a son should be looking out for him in this manner, although I do fear that despite our best efforts many boys will still need to make these discoveries the hard way. Nothing educates quite like pain, you see.

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      1. All true: a father teaching his son but then life being the best teacher – you don’t want to raise your kid over-protected, in a cocoon… I guess it is a constant balancing act (as I have no kids myself).

         Good, sad piece (perhaps a bit long-winded and repetitive) – unfortunately all too realistic: how many women leave their high-ballers once he loses his job, his fortune, his status (or all of it)? And, I would bet, within 6 to 12 months after his mishap. Divorce-lawyers make a great source for similar stories – them speaking out would open the eyes of more men….

         The Machiavellian double-speak and gas-lighting is classic. Just short of her handing him a gun. “I have been so bad, I feel so ashamed, I can’t live with myself, seeing you suffer because of my betrayal, you deserve better, so why don’t you shoot yourself?”

         PS: “Fast forward 2 years and Julia’s girlfriend admitted to having an affair with her co-worker…” – that obviously should be: “Julia, Ben’s gf, admitted….”

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         1. > All true: a father teaching his son but then life being the best teacher – you don’t want to raise your kid over-protected, in a cocoon… I guess it is a constant balancing act (as I have no kids myself).

            Like most things, I believe so.

            > PS: “Fast forward 2 years and Julia’s girlfriend admitted to having an affair with her co-worker…” – that obviously should be: “Julia, Ben’s gf, admitted….”

            Fixed! Thank you.

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5. I am completely and utterly mind fucked.

   This is an article I will share with my younger cousins as I am the oldest and have 3 younger sisters.

   “Next time you feel even a tinge of guilt for being a jerk to a woman, remember Ben.” THIS! This right here hit me like a ton of bricks to the dome.

   Interestingly enough, I just finished No More Mr Nice Guy a few days ago and have been implementing relentlessly. (As a side note: your blog and writing style challenge me to convey my words in a higher caliber than before reading IM, so thank you)

   The explanation of what dread is by contrasting it to anti-dread was beautiful. In 90% of my pick-ups, I merge sets and use jealousy to my advantage mercilessly. Bambi eyes from the “not so interested” 9 unfold right before me in a beautiful play of cat and mouse. Thanks for reaffirming my beliefs.

   #immindfuck

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6. Things like this I feel like is part of the reason why modern society doesn’t want to have children – me included. The drama and struggle that is a possibility of the mother taking her emotions out on the wellbeing of the child is too much, I can’t ever be in a position where my child is being used as a bargaining chip.

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   1. Right, if the judicial system is overhauled to be more egalitarian in matters of custody eg: not assuming a man’s guilt until proven innocent, automatically favouring the mother for custody, making it harder to get divorces etc, then I believe more men would want to get married and have children. The current legal and social climate is very hostile to men, a simply cost benefit analysis suggests it’s simply not worth the hassle, not to mention the 70% of divorces initiated by women statistic either.

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7. Hey Illimitable, here’s some food for thought from a most bitchy, misandrist Australian feminist writer, Clementine Ford, that you might have some fun responding to. It never ceases to amaze me how it’s ok for women to have “women only” gatherings whilst the feminists shrilly shriek “rape culture!” against any “male only” events…
   Ms Ford really needs to be brought down a rung or thirteen, but her arrogance and hypocrisy are outstanding, in a horrid way, of course…
   dailylife.com.au/news-and-views/dl-opinion/why-are-men-so-afraid-of-womenonly-events-20160118-gm8c3i.html

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8. Good stuff. I can’t help but draw a parallel between the ‘pigeon in a cage’ experiment from R.B Sparkman’s ‘The Art of Manipulation'(I cannot recommend the book enough) and the rule of thumb which ideally every man should muster and live by, the aphorism being ‘You gotta treat her mean to keep her keen’. That statement by itself would provide enough ammo to sjw’s, feminists and the likes to indulge in a very fulfilling round of bashing of the person who dare say it. But hey, as Robert Greene would say, this is all only very amoral as opposed to being on either side of the morality scale as perspective deems fit. It just works.

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9. “A woman is a creature who pesters, nags, undermines, demands and sabotages her man in a petty quest for power born of insecurity, and should you yield to her attempts of usurpation, she will hate you.”

   This is insane. Are women crazy?

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   1. Sorry for the double comment.

      “To ensure a fruitful and more lasting relationship, it would have made much more sense for Ben to have gone to college whilst his girlfriend stayed home and looked after the child”

      Who would have paid the bills then?

      “In a miraculous state of compartmentalisation, she will forget everything the man did to assist her ascension, attributing all credit for her accomplishments to herself whilst allocating blame for her imperfections to her man”

      What the fuck? This is fucking ridiculous. Fuck, when I think about it I can find examples in my own life when it happened but how in the world could a human being act like this?! One must be batshit crazy! Or completely mental!

      “By facilitating Julia’s social mobility at the expense of his own, Ben not only deprived himself economic opportunities, but has all but certainly ensured his love interest will lose interest in him.”

      And because of that he made himself, his child and even Julia miserable? He sacrificed himself for her to make her happy and it ruined their family? He made her so unhappy that she decided to get another man?

      “The old “it’s not you, it’s me” rejection. As objective in tone as I endeavour to be in the penning of this literature, I’m at a point where I find it all but impossible not to laugh at how insanely ludicrous this gambit was. Here, Julia tries to save face (maintain her reputation as a wholesome woman and mother) by feigning she is so wrought with guilt for her disloyalty that she should leave as she is unworthy of Ben.”

      What you say makes sense but it messes with my brain too much.

      “I do not believe these were the actions of a dark triad woman, but rather that of a REPRESENTATIVELY AVERAGE WOMAN in a state of scorn.”

      ARE YOU KIDDING ME? I’m out of here, I can’t read any further. This is some crazy content. I don’t know if it’s crazy in a good way or not, but that’s insane.

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      1. She fucking KILLED a man to get a JOB and deprived her daughter of her father! This is NOT normal dude!

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10. Women are drowning.

    Every advancement of the human condition, has been conceived, designed, built, fought for and maintained exclusively by men. Civilisation truly is a male construction. A construction that men have had to drag women kicking and screaming into.

    In reality, no matter how much a woman appears to have her shit together, she is only ever one rejection, one personal slight, one flat tire away from an hysterical episode. Despite what feminists would have us believe, women really can not survive without the support of men.

    This is why women will forgive men anything except… WEAKNESS!

    Because a weak man, is to a woman, what one drowning person is to another drowning person… At best useless, at worst dangerous. Women are hard-wired to not only avoid weak men but to be ruthlessly hostile towards them!

    A man who has changed (in a woman’s eyes) from being above her to below her, doesn’t just go back to zero, he goes to being less than the lowest crawling creature on the face of the earth. No punishment is too harsh for him and no humiliation to great.

    This is why a woman can so easily stand up in front of a court of strangers, and falsely accuse an innocent man she has been intimate with on the most personal level for many years, of the most disgusting crime of molesting his own children.

    But let’s be clear, this is not because they are ‘evil’ it’s because they are out of context.

    Whenever a man notices women consistently acting in a way that seems totally illogical, transposing those actions into a primitive tribal setting will instantly render them perfectly rational.

    If you observe women’s behaviour closely enough, you can see these ‘out of context’ female behavioural patterns are very common.

    Take, for instance, the seemingly trivial habit girls/women have of all going to the ladies toilets in a group when out socially, often arriving back complaining (without seeing the irony) that they had to wait in line for ages!

    Now place that, seemingly illogical behaviour, back to the hostile pre-history setting of an ancient tribe. A time when women would have been in perpetual danger. aka… Being eaten by wild animals, taken by the men of another tribe or any number of other natural injuries. In this environment women could not survive without the constant protection of the men of her tribe.

    But going to the toilet is the one function females would have been reluctant to perform in the company of those men. So, as wondering off into the forest/jungle/savanna alone, was not an option, women would have grouped together to performed this particular bodily function. Finding safety within the herd.

    So, believe it or not, this seemingly trivial female habit, is actually a residual ‘survival behaviour pattern’ inherited from their ancient ancestors.

    Why do women always carry bags?
    Why do women wear makeup?
    Why do women hate being called unattractive more than unintelligent?
    Why do women have such a strong groupie mentality?
    Why do women prefer having a male boss?
    Why do women cry far more often than men?
    Why do women prefer tall men?
    Why do women tend to not vote for other women?
    Why do women prefer open borders?
    Why do women tend to vote for parties of the Left?

    The answer to all of these questions and many more can be found within the setting of an ancient tribe.

    More food for thought: ttps://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UxpVwBzFAkw

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11. Well, as a Muslim, I must admit that these issues know no borders. Women are the same everywhere, every age, in every culture. The problem is that I am 3 months into a long distance relationship with a Russian girl above 30 and having hard time to analyze her character. It’s really hard to implement red pill philosophy over a distance since you also have to put in some effort to bond with the person you are talking. But, of course, you can never expose the intimate details of your insecurities, aspirations or some of your emotional handicaps. I found her really different from most girls I have known. I know I know, AWALT-NAWALT. Yes. Each day, I find myself more and more closer to the belief that there is some exception out there so why not this one? For now, there has been some very simple shit-testing such as waiting for texting but I can say that I am talking to someone sincere. Using dread, push-pull or other things is really hard. It’s so tempting to deviate from the red pill mentality and cave in to the belief that this could be something mature, real. I don’t know. I think I’ll have to measure her commitment only by the sacrifices or investments she will or won’t make for us since I have no other input to evaluate. We’ll see

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12. I just read this and i am really thankful. Really. I planned to pay my gf an English course next month. Thank god i find this. And nope! I change the plan. I pay myself for Mandarin course next month. I will invest in me more.

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13. Wow….. now when I listen to Kim by Eminem…. I think of Ben. Same with ‘97 Bonnie and Clyde. It’s like you can imagine Ben doing those things due to the witch he had to deal with.

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17. I met a guy at a gym, lets call him Alex. 90% of his story is the same as in this article.
    The saddest thing is that he is not really in that bad position yet, but he is so blue pilled that the part of him that supposed to fight for happiness seems to be dead.
    He is hot tall dude (even after few years drinking alone after divorce). But when I talk to him, it feels like some part of his brain is missing. He understands what I am saying, but there is no call for action in his consciousness. He had this naive brainwashed perspective on the world that school gave him. He used to have a nightmares but instead of listening to them he started to smoke weed every night before going to bed to silence his inner voice.
    I thought to use him as a guy to go to bars and night clubs with because he looks better than me. But it is impossible to do so because he is so lost. I really thought how could I help him, but now I just watch and observe the behavior. It is impossible save people who don’t want to save themselves.

    Watching him I made really valuable observations:
    -If most people believe in something it is guaranty to be a bad thought.
    – It is morally wrong to be poor and without a goal, and it is your and only your responsibility to make sure that you grow.

    I suspect he became brainwashed because when he was a child they gave him too much adderall to calm his soul.

    I am really lucky that I was not that attractive when I was younger, because I could easily be this blue pilled husband lost in life. Now I’ve read enough to be aware of my prehaps privileged position.

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